Within communication and negotiation is also the continual foundation of consent. Consent should be happening constantly in whatever way you decide. One of the major consent frameworks was provided by Williams, Thomas, Prior, and Christensen in 2014 called the 4 C’s. The four parts of this framework are Caring, Communication, Consent, and Caution. They propose that in BDSM (and all sex in general) these four things must be present. At the core of all BDSM, partners care for each other and the experience that others are having. Communication, like we’ve chatted about, is vital, Consent (specifically informed and aware consent) is mandatory, and Caution is essential especially in ensuring people are not harmed past what they are desiring and safety precautions are being taken.
Overall, negotiation is what you can use to get everyone on the same page so that during the scene, you can focus purely on your partner(s), yourself, and pleasure. Take as little or as much time as you need before each time you do any BDSM to see how your partner(s) are feeling that day, what level of intensity they are desiring, what they are wanting to feel, and all of the other things listed above.