How do you edge?
Everyone is different, and every edge is a unique experience depending on your needs and desires. If you are with a partner, it’s imperative to get consent so you are both on the same page before edging during sex. If you’re alone, release any tension and be grateful for your body.
Once intentions and consent are established, Bedard suggests this step-by-step guide (whether alone or with a partner), for orgasm control to achieve the ultimate edge.
Be mindful during your practice.
Decide what kind or orgasm you want to have and the purpose of your session.
Make sure you feel safe.
Choose an environment where you are comfortable and safe. Let go of any shame or secrecy.
Start to stimulate arousal, whether that be with your fingers or a toy. If you are with a partner, have them gently touch you where it feels best. Some sensual places to spark arousal include (but are not limited to): the inside of your thigh, outer genitalia, nape of the neck, or breasts.
Build pleasure by continuing to use a toy and touching yourself and/or your partner.
Be mindful and recognize your body’s signs of orgasm or when you are getting near the climax.
Just before you get to the peak and release, slow down, pause, and/or stop the stimulation for a few minutes. Breathe deeply into the sensation. Regain control and resume your pleasure building.
Repeat the process as many times as you wish (since edging can technically last hours, it may be helpful to set a timer if you want a limit).
Finally, when and if you are ready, allow your orgasm to come, whether it includes ejaculation or not.
Bask in the pleasure and relaxation that you are feeling in your body, or with your partner.