Basically, you are too busy judging whether or not you are doing it right or are pleasing your partner that you are not in the moment and enjoying the experience for what it is: intimate time with your partner.
So, be mindful. The next time you and your partner start to get frisky, try your best to be present. Notice how nice it is to steal some alone time with your partner, soak in how good it feels to be touched and to be intimate, attune to the present, let go of what you think should happen and be open to what is happening in the moment. The more you practice this, the more you will see the effects, and the better sex will become.
If you need a helping hand, Pepper has a lot of products to enhance your sex life through mindfulness. Think of anything that increases your sensory receptors, such as the smell of a scented candle like our CONNECTION candle, or the feeling of our signature slippery Silicone Lube on your skin, or even the tightness of a restraint. Your senses help you to notice what is in the present to keep you practicing mindful sex, and not only help you to have better sex but great sex, too.