Relationship Therapists note that many issues in a relationship coincide with major life transitions such as moving, buying a house, caring for elderly parents, a change in job or financial standing, one partner going to graduate school, dealing with health concerns or experiencing a major loss. Your sex life is not immune to those transitions and if you are one of the 37% of American couples who choose to build on your union with children, those sexual communication skills are going to get even more stretched when balancing the needs of work, parenting, friends, and most importantly, one another.
The key to navigating life’s challenges while balancing your sexual relationship is by embracing the ups and downs that come with living your shared life. Couples who maintain a strong sexual connection over their marriage are the ones that use those communication skills to connect, understand what their partner is experiencing and face the ups and downs together.
Using a “quality over quantity” mindset can help couples weather life and still want to get frisky with one another. Maybe you haven’t had the careless three times a week sex you enjoyed when you were first together, but redefining sex will help you notice all the ways you still engage with one another and when you do carve out the time to have sex you know it’s special and a symbol of your dedication to one another.