null Skip to main content
6 Ways to Intensify Her Orgasm

better sex

6 Ways to Intensify Her Orgasm

Kaisha-Dyan McMillanApril 13, 2020

Get expert tips on how to get her going and bring her over the brink.

There’s nothing like pleasing your person to the point of climax.

One of the best things about orgasms is that there’s no limit to how amazing they can feel. For those of us with vaginas, the vast clitoral network offers lots of orgasmic possibilities using both internal and external stimulation.

Listen, we know you’ve made her toes curl hundreds of times, but did you know that there are things the two of you can do to make her orgasms even more intense?


Clear your afternoon schedule and get to work (or rather, play) trying out this list of six ways to achieve the really big O:

“Starting playtime off with masturbation can make your partner feel more relaxed while simultaneously heightening their desire for you.”

1. Start with masturbation

Most people with vaginas need clitoral stimulation, not penetration alone, to reach orgasm. That’s why a very sexy way to get the party started between the sheets is with lots of clitoral masturbation.

“Masturbation can be a gamechanger because it can enhance sex drive and help with natural lubrication,” explains Sunny Rodgers, Certified Clinical Sexologist & Intimate Lifestyle Expert, “which can help better prepare women for partnered sex.”

Starting playtime off with masturbation can make your partner feel more relaxed while simultaneously heightening their desire for you. Shall we say “let those fingers do the walking?” Yes, I think we shall…

“Flexing and releasing the Kegel muscles during sex not only feels amazing but according to Sunny, “will improve circulation, pleasurable friction and sensation in this area as well.”

2. Get in a Kegels workout

Once things start to get ramped up, one way for her to intensify her orgasmic experience is by activating the pelvic floor muscles, also known as Kegels, during intercourse.

“Squeezing these pelvic floor muscles will draw more blood to the clitoris and vagina, making this area more sensitive,” Sunny explains. Flexing and releasing the Kegel muscles during sex not only feels amazing but according to Sunny, “will improve circulation, pleasurable friction and sensation in this area as well.”

And if you’re the one doing the penetrating, trust us: all that tightening and relaxing will feel incredible to you, too.

3. Rock her body

Far be it from us to begrudge a preferred position or rhythm, but you might be surprised at how simply shifting the way your bodies move during sex can increase sensation for your partner.

“More than just meeting those partner thrusts, lifting one’s pelvis over and over engages and energizes all the pelvic floor muscles and can help women have more intense orgasms,” Sunny says.

We love a classic move, but just knowing it’s possible to blow her mind even further by modifying a favorite position sounds like the ultimate upgrade.

4. Bring on the toys and stimulators

Sex toys come in all sorts of varieties and are awesome for their ability to add a little something extra to intimacy. Naturally, a clitoral vibrator is a wonderful way to bring on the intensity, but there are plenty more options beyond that.

Have you two tried Dipsea? This erotic audio stories app can get your motors running even before intercourse even starts.

Or, this fresh take on a classic rabbit is an excellent way to stimulate her g-spot—plus, it’s a fun toy to use together, adding the option of couple play (yes to that!) to the bedroom.

And as always, using water or oil-based lube during playtime makes everything slicker, sexier and longer-lasting

“Use your tongue or fingers to bring the tease to her most sensitive parts, and when it seems like an orgasm is building, try briefly pausing the action.”

5. Be a tease

We get it, sometimes finding the best time to connect means carving out intimacy between duties, like when the kids are asleep. Whenever playtime does happen, slowing things down and being more present in the moment can truly help build the most delicious tension.

Take charge by keeping your partner from climaxing as long as possible. Use your tongue or fingers to bring the tease to her most sensitive parts, and when it seems like an orgasm is building, try briefly pausing the action. Be warned: she might go wild and make unusual noises…and that’s precisely the point.

6. Don’t forget to breathe

Because we all tend to hold our breath when things get hot and heavy, Sunny advises tapping into one of our most important bodily functions when looking to increase orgasmic intensity.

“Most people breathe in short, shallow breaths that don’t deliver the optimum blood flow to all those aroused areas of their bodies,” she explains. While not always easy to do in moments of ecstasy, your partner will want to try taking deep, long breaths just as her orgasm is building – not holding it in.

“These breaths will deliver oxygen and help engorge the vagina and clitoris, allowing for more powerful sensations that lead to stronger orgasms,” Sunny says.

Even though having an orgasm doesn’t have to be the goal of intimacy, it’s certainly a worthwhile quest, and with just a few easy techniques it’s actually possible to regularly give her the orgasm of her life. We think she deserves it, don’t you?

You may also like...