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Feng Shui with a Fresh Start

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Feng Shui with a Fresh Start

Kaisha-Dyan McMillanDecember 2, 2019

In a rut, funk, or feeling stuck? Feng Shui can bring new life to your living space (and your life).

In a rut, funk, or feeling stuck?

Every couple goes through moments when it seems like nothing is in alignment. Sometimes the communication is off, little annoyances become major nuisances, or you’re just not feeling each other. 

“in the same way, trying a new wall color or repositioning furniture can reinvigorate a room, all relationships benefit from each person putting effort towards making small but significant changes every once in a while.”

It makes sense after all—getting into a rut is inevitable when two people spend as much time as you do navigating family, work, finances, and countless other life events together. That’s why to help keep that funk from turning into something bigger, we think applying a little relationship feng shui a few times a year might do everyone some good.

Feng shui principles are all about arranging the elements in our homes to create harmony and positive energy flow throughout our lives. So what is feng shui for relationships? Well, in the same way, trying a new wall color or repositioning furniture can reinvigorate a room, all relationships benefit from each person putting effort towards making small but significant changes every once in a while. Small things done consistently over time result in great things.

When things feel stuck, here are a few ways to reset by tapping into a little relationship feng shui:

“When exploring this under the lens of relationship feng shui, a simple update to an old routine could go a long way towards freshening things up for both of you.”

Try A Fresh Routine To Change Energy Flow

Feng shui tips for the home include taking what’s already there – framed photos, a mirror, the living room couch – and simply moving it somewhere else to change the energy flow. When exploring this under the lens of relationship feng shui, a simple update to an old routine could go a long way towards freshening things up for both of you.

If one of your schedules feels overburdened, maybe swapping who drops off the kids in the mornings and picks them up in the afternoons will help free things up. For the one who works from home, starting the day earlier or trying a co-work space could make being present during evening quality time with your person much easier.

Right there, freeing up that time and energy can feel like knocking down a wall, for sure!

Besides, we all know life is fluid, and what worked the last six months might need some adjusting. Shake up old routines and see what happens.

“Addressing the smaller, more manageable issues in our relationships gives us the emotional and mental energy to manage the big stuff, like connecting with each other.”

De-Clutter Those Emotions

One of the better-known feng shui principles revolves around getting rid of clutter, which left unchecked can become a major energy drain. De-cluttering at home could mean tossing broken or unused items or integrating more storage containers to keep the kitchen counters clear. Ultimately, the goal of de-cluttering is to facilitate energy flow by getting rid of small but potent distractions.

Likewise, when clutter of the emotional kind runs rampant it can bog down your relationship. When we talk about emotional clutter, we mean those irritants and inconveniences that in the grand scheme of things aren’t that big a deal, but can easily go from minor to major the longer they stick around.

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If being constantly accessible for work is distracting you from quality time with the one you love, turn off all phone notifications (and while you’re at it, the phone too) after a certain time. Looking to outside resources and accepting help is another way to manage emotional clutter. For example, if having the kids carpool with the trusted family next door will make Mondays less manic for the whole family, give it a shot.

Addressing the smaller, more manageable issues in our relationships gives us the emotional and mental energy to manage the big stuff, like connecting with each other.

Can’t you just feel the gust of fresh air blowing through that tired old routine?

Add Pops Of Color (To Quality Time)

We’ve all been there: date nights go from weekly to monthly to...when was the last time? That’s why one of our favorite feng shui basics is to nurture positive energy flow by intentionally using color. For the home, this could mean promoting sexual energy by adding red accents to the bedroom. For the relationship, adding color might translate into using a more creative approach to quality time with your other half.

Spontaneously decide one night to go on a meandering walk with your person around the neighborhood and explore a new spot for dinner. Decompress together at home over a DIY project. When things are a little stagnant between the sheets, nothing starts the day off right quite like morning sex (you may even just skip your morning joe).

When quality time is few and far between, add a splash of color by reimagining what date night means to you.

Whether you subscribe to the concept of feng shui or not, making small tweaks to help the energy flow in your relationship during an inevitable rut is a great step towards a fresh start.

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