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Fun, the Antidote to Boredom

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Fun, the Antidote to Boredom

Ali LawrenceSeptember 2, 2019

Does life seem a little dull these days? Learn how to spice things up.

They say the antidote to boredom is a sense of purpose, but we think it’s having fun. We also think fun is super important, thus, giving it a sense of purpose.

See how we did that?

We’re just going to leave this thought right here for you, so take your time with it: Sex is the fun you’ve been craving.

“What we’re here to say is that there’s a whole world for you two that sparks fun and elicits (maybe even explicit) connection for you behind closed doors.”

Inspired by Esther Perel’s oracle-like teachings on sex and relationships, Sex Expert, Julia Feldman of Giving the Talk says, “We want novelty and new and exciting experiences in a partnership, but we also crave stability and reliability and the monotony of having someone we know we can rely on. Working on our relationships takes skill, effort, and work, and sex can be about having fun together; you can create a special place together away from the monotony.”

She goes on to sing the praises of adult toys (not of the sports car variety) - suggesting that we should invest in our sex lives by buying some toys with which to play with the same “childlike wonder and excitement” your child would have with a new train set.

And if you’re like us, sometimes (almost all of the time) drowning in the deep end with kids, work, marriage and mortgages (it’s called adulting) you may spend a lot of time looking for fun (really far) away from the repetition of life. Believing that a complete departure from the mundanity of making lunches, doing laundry, working and monitoring our health and wellness (whatever that means?!), is the only way to have fun.

“Stability is comfortable. Togetherness is familiar. But sex sometimes asks for a little space from all that, and in that space, lots of good stuff can happen.”

To be clear we are all for getaways, staycations, breaks, escapes, sabbaticals, and retreats - really, whatever floats your boat. But, what we’re here to say is that there’s a whole world for you two that sparks fun and elicits (maybe even explicit) connection for you behind closed doors. The same closed doors that are right there, in front of you.

So, checkmate, life - we’re going to flip the script on a few things.

And we can back it up.

Esther Perel, who says “wanting is a sense of aliveness,“ writes in her book Mating in Captivity; Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic, “But too often, as couples settle into the comforts of love, they cease to fan the flame of desire. They forget that fire needs air.” Friends, this is it!

Her words are poetic, but her message is simple. Stability is comfortable. Togetherness is familiar. But sex sometimes asks for a little space from all that, and in that space, lots of good stuff can happen, i.e. fun - the adult edition.

“We still have to check our comfort zones at the door to meet our partners halfway.”

Pepper reveres connection.

We believe that Pepper has the power to restore, heal, ignite and sustain romantic relationships, but we get it, a lot of times it seems like we’re swimming upstream trying to get there.

And not just because of all the logistics, like plans and babysitters. But because it takes vulnerability (oh, hey, Brene) and trust to put yourself out there, even if it’s to your partner of 15 years - in fact, sometimes especially because it’s your partner of 15 years.

Look, we talk a big game, but sometimes we still have to check our comfort zones at the door to meet our partners halfway. The truth is, we’re not masters in this whole sex and connection thing, we’re lifelong students. And, the fun part is, discovering new things together.

But we are really into the subject matter, so that’s a win for everyone.

In the end, Pepper is all about connection. And we believe that sex is a great way to connect. Discovering ways to enjoy each other is fun, and creating the space to play together is essential to surviving the dailyness.

So, go ahead, take up some space, it’s time to have some fun - of the spicy variety - with your main squeeze!

You’ll both be better for it.

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