All the tips you need for a sweet and romantic date night at home.
Having a quiet evening to ourselves can be as rare as a newborn baby sleeping in.
Planning a romantic night where we stay put shifts the narrative away from our homes being simply where we shelter.
When most of us think of a romantic night, we think “out”—no dishes, no mess, no kids, no distractions. We have that urge to hit the town with dinner reservations and show tickets because home isn’t an option. Because who hasn’t experienced devolution from date night to Netflix and snooze in 60 seconds flat? Busted!
But couples, it doesn’t have to be this way.
Planning a romantic night where we stay put shifts the narrative away from our homes being simply where we shelter, sleep, and feed ourselves by reminding us that it’s also a sanctuary for togetherness and maybe even (tell us if we’re taking this too far) an adult playground. When everyone’s off the clock and the kids are staying with friends for the night, what better time for a couple to savor the environment the two of you built together?
Here are some suggestions to create a perfect romantic night in:
Build anticipation for connection.
The most romantic date ideas have one thing in common: they set the intention for quality time. From the moment that fancy dinner reservation is made, you start getting into a mindset of connection, and there’s no reason your at-home date can’t elicit those same feelings.
On the morning of the big day, leave a formal invitation to the night’s festivities in your lover’s work bag. Throughout the day, send them a few cute texts counting down the hours. Small gestures like these put you both on the same page and set the intention while also building anticipation.
Who doesn’t love a little healthy tension?
Put everything—including smartphones—on silent and let the romance run the show.
Sweep distractions under the rug.
Carving out space for couples’ time at home means creating actual space in your place for romance. This isn’t so much about making the house spotless—it’s more about putting normal life on hold until tomorrow.
If there’s a basket of laundry that needs to be folded, put it in the closet. Tuck bills into the desk drawer. Make the bedroom more inviting by changing the sheets and removing the kids’ toys.
Put a few fresh flowers in a vase. Hint: peonies are the flower of romance, just saying...
Create ambiance by adding a spritz of room spray or diffusing essential oils. Make sure that things like condoms, lube, and your favorite toys are on the bedside table, because when the mood to play comes, nobody should be rummaging like a raccoon.
Even the best date ideas are no match for a distracted mind. Put everything—including smartphones—on silent and let the romance run the show.
Have a mini-spa moment.
We think decompressing together is one of the most romantic ideas around, and you have access to the most exclusive spa in the world: your bathroom.
Soaking in the tub or having a relaxing shower together kicks off date night while also helping both of you let the day, and the world outside, melt away. Things like soothing bath bombs and invigorating oils can really make at-home spa time feel decadent, and opting for bathing suits instead of birthday suits can help keep that tension building.
Think of this moment as the appetizer—you do want to stay hungry for the main course, after all.
Let finger foods do the talking.
Speaking of appetizers, let’s keep it real: having a rich, elegant meal is romantic, yes, but it’s also the quickest route to Sleepy Town, population: 2.
We think romantic dinner ideas should feature appetizers and nibbles as alternatives to a full meal. Sharing an antipasti platter filled with succulent tomatoes, mozzarella, sliced avocado, hot peppers, and a drizzle of olive oil gets everyone salivating without causing meal-induced drowsiness.
Plus, we see nothing wrong with using our fingers.
You’ve been building tension all day long, and you’ve both earned the payoff.
Time for dessert.
Dessert marks the end of the evening, so why not cap off your romantic night in with something sweet? Keep stoking the fire by sharing a few pieces of dark chocolate or sipping something warm.
But surely you know we’re not just talking about food.
You’ve been building tension all day long, and you’ve both earned the payoff. Ease into a sensual massage, interlace those fingers, or cut right to the chase and head over to the bedroom.
Good date ideas are a dime a dozen, so why not shake things up by turning your home into a venue for romance every once in a while? There are no reservations required and the service is always five-star.